Sunday, August 5, 2012

Heartbreaking News

I got heartbreaking news this week.  It involves someone I love very much.  Actually, 2 someones that I love that are now getting a divorce.  So for the one of them that I have loved their entire life, I will help to pick up the pieces.  But the other I viewed as a soul sister... her words.  Her words, she "has a deep sense of love".  Until she doesn't.  I am angry!  I am hurt!  I am so frustrated that I cannot fix this!  That they cannot fix this!  I get that you cannot live in another's marriage... I do.  But I there are things here that I just do not understand.  And probably never will.  Because I do not think that they understand.  I know one of them doesn't.  That one was just issued an ULTIMATUM.  How do we go on?  I guess we'll figure it out along the way.  One day at a time. 

I've been reading Bloom by Kelle Hampton.  Pretty sure that I discovered her via Momastery and Glennon.  It is a great read, but I'm not done and I'm not logging it.  I was struck by the following words and I am hoping they will help us all heal: 
"You know, through pain, you learn a lot about yourself - things you though you never knew you wanted to learn.  And it's kind of like those animals that regrow a part of their body - like starfish.  You might not feel it now. You might not even want to grow, but you will.  You'll grow the part that broke off, and that growing, that blooming - cannot happen without the pain.  ...Life is like a choose-your-own-adventure book. I thought I'd be on page 68 today but look... I'm not.  And you'd thought you'd be at page 71 today but you're on page 49 instead.  And it's a whole different ending than you thought it would be, but you get to take it from here.  It will still end well - you'll just take a little bit of a different route."
"So many people fear hard times, they go through their life soley seeking comfort and avoiding personal growth at all costs because it hurts.  But I promise you, (name).  I promise - if you can find a part of you to believe me and trust what I'm saying - you will be happier than you've ever been.  There will come a day when you believe everything that I am saying from the deepest part of your soul, and it will be real and true.  That's growth."
 "I want you to picture some hypothetical person in your mind - someone who handled" divorce "exactly how you wish you could.  Now go and be that person.  Rock this out, (name).  Rock it out and show the world another way.  Imagine a light switch in your brain - a switch that shifts your paradigm.  Put on different glasses, discard the old ones, and flip the switch, (name).  Because life is all about how you look at it."
These are the words that SCREAMED from the pages at me in a book I stumbled across completely accidentally, but not at all on accident.  God put Glennon in my life, she steered me to the book by Kelle about a subject that I never would have read except for an angel named Lucy.  And I am bringing these words to my someones I love very much and trying, oh I am really, really trying, to put them to use in my heart. But I hope that they help the someone I've loved his whole life and his babies the most of all.

1 comment:

  1. Oh K, I am so, so sorry to hear about your friends. Divorce is about the couple, yet it does affect so, so many others. The couple that introduced Jon and I, at their wedding, later got divorced, and that was so hard on us. Many people we knew that got married right around us did the same. It's hard. Prayers for your friends, their situation, for you as their friend, that you can be there for them and be the support they need.

    And I hear you on the God putting things right where you need them. He's done that a LOT for me this week as well. :) God bless you!